Parenting Vivian | 04 May 2011 03:39 pm

Develop Confidence and Motivation in Our Children

Is your child confident & motivated? Is he or she independent, with his own opinions and feelings about himself? Does she like to communicate? These foundational qualities support any effort to succeed.

Children are born learners, genetically coded to learn an amazing range of skills and develop an astounding amount of knowledge. Also ideas and opinions about our world within a short time.

By the time a baby is three, not only has he developed understanding of an entire language system. He has also mastered the subtitles of interacting and communicating. He knows what upsets Daddy and uses it to his advantage – he can ask for and get what he wants most times from him. When Mum’s frown means it’s no use crying, he can do likewise from her. He learned all these without actually being taught.

One of our greatest fears is that our kids may fail in education. We try to give them the best education and with the greatest love, we push them to achieve. Ironically, this results in the very thing we’re trying to avoid – demotivating, stress and a lack of real achievement.

The Secrets are Encouraging & Learning

Instead of pushing your child hard, help your child develop Confidence and Motivation on his own. These grow naturally in a loving, supportive environment – all we have to do is nurture and protect them. Confidence is very easy to destroy and motivation is ultra-hard to fix once broken. So it’s important to :

1. Believe your child is a winner.

2. Allow him to try, make mistakes and move on.

3. Accept the “Yes, and….” approach – don’t create conflicts.

4. Celebrate achievements and look for the positives.

5. Give specific feedback.

6. Separate the behavior from the person.

7. Look at the world through his eyes and mind.

8. Enjoy “messing” with him and talking.

9. Conversations with him will develop her self-awareness and a strong relationship with you.

10. Laugh – give him great memories to support the very center of him self-identity.

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